I knew that boy was nothing but trouble!!!!!

[Wayne's 88 GT]

I have a 17 yr old daughter and up until last week she really hasn't dated anyone since she moved in with my wife and I 2 years ago.......and me being the typical dad I wasn't thrilled about it............(been looking at shotguns lol) but they have to grow up at some point. Since she started dating this boy Andrew Katie has been on the verge of getting in trouble but hasn't yet. Well after work today she asked to go over to his house and watch a movie........since she has to work tomm at 8am I said ok if his parents are home and be home by 9:30. Katie is usually a good kid about when she is supposed to be home so I didn't worry...........until 9:30 and she wasn't home yet. She comes in the door around 10:00 and I was really mad about her being late but too mad............until she told me she got a SPEEDING TICKET!!! :copcar: I asked her how fast she was going.........62 in a 35!!!!! 27 friggin miles OVER THE LIMIT!!!!!! :angry::bat::angry::cussing::burningmad:
It's one thing to misjudge your time and be late coming home......but 27 miles over the limit there is no excuse or reason for it at all. I just can't wait to see what the heck it does to my insurance.........not to mention how much her ticket is going to be. Oh the joys of being a parent.......the worst part is that since our house got rezoned from Mauldin high to JL Mann.....since she is a senior she could go to Mauldin but there is no bus for her to ride...............:angry::angry::angry:
I told her she better be figuring out how shes going to get to work and figure out who shes going to carpool with to get to school........
I love my kids and I know she's young and going to make mistakes but I am just so mad right now there are almost no words for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[bonesgt]

She would be allowed to drive to school and work and that would be it for a good while, if she was mine!!

[Wayne's 88 GT]

I'm considering that...........but right now I'm so mad that I don't even want her driving PERIOD for the time being......she has friends that live by us that drive to school and our neighbor drives and goes to Mauldin as well I think. Maybe by tommorow I'll cool down and consider to school and work only.

[Quinn]

when i got my first speeding ticket ( and my only one) i went straight home and told my mom even though i was scared as he11. i was running 57 in a 40 and it was 180 ticket and they dropped it down to 75. i thought they suspended your license if you are going 25+ over the limit?

[WolfStang90GT]

i would allow her to drive to school and work, she would also have to pay for her own ticket and whatever the insurance goes up by, she would also pay... this is the perfect time for her to learn with mistakes comes some serious costs.....a learning experience

[Wayne's 88 GT]

i would allow her to drive to school and work, she would also have to pay for her own ticket and whatever the insurance goes up by, she would also pay... this is the perfect time for her to learn with mistakes comes some serious costs.....a learning experience

I agree 100% about learning from mistakes......and I've had some time to cool and my wife and I agree that she can drive to school and work only.
It looks like the estimated ticket on the side of the form is $440.00.
The worst thing is that she just came off of grounding because she couldn't pay for her insurance or gas because she went out with her friends and blew her money and overdrew her bank account by $300.00 and lied about having the money to pay for the insurance. She told me when she left her boyfriends house she had to take her friend Tiffany home......Andrew lives in Gilder Creek off of Woodruff rd past Scuffletown rd.....Tiffany lives off of Butler Rd past Mauldin High and we live off of Roper Mountain Rd and Batesville Rd..........she had to be home at 9:30 and she said she left his house a little after 9..........bad decision making on her part and that also means she was flying her little butt from his house to her house to home until she got busted.........I'm just worried that she isn't going to learn and continue to make poor and bad choices in the name of rushing to grow up.............I'm just thanking the Lord that she drives a Focus and not a Mustang.......she would have been doing 110 in a 35 then!!!

[Silver91Hatch]

she would also have to pay for her own ticket and whatever the insurance goes up by, she would also pay... this is the perfect time for her to learn with mistakes comes some serious costs.....a learning experience

DARN RIGHT!!!! I was on my parents insurance UNTIL I bought my Mustang, ha ha you thought I got a ticket. I have always been careful driving because I know if I get a ticket with THREE Mustangs on my insurance, it would go through the roof(like it isn't high now). I'm 21 with 3 "Muscle Cars" even one being a 4 banger, doesn't matter, it doesn't say escort, so its a hot rod. Better have a GOOD JOB with a ticket that high. Wow, what does she drive???

[SVTSkip]

Hate to hear it, and I surely empathise with your frustration. I've been telling my oldest ( only 10 yet, but wants a Stang badly ! ) that when she gets her license/car that it will be the FIRST priviledge she loses in the event of ANY misconduct. Hopefully I wont have to take her keys, but then I again the real hope will be that she wont pull as much BS as I did at that age LOL ! Hopefully you can get the court to maybe reduce some of the financial obligation on your part as far as insurance/fines go. Hopefully she'll learn from this. :thumbsup1:

[WolfStang90GT]

if she shows for court they MAY drop the fine a little depending how big an ass the officer wants to be.. if she has never had a ticket b4, chances are better.. make her check into a PTI option for this as well, i am not sure they will do such for speeding tickets but it doesnt hurt to find out. i hope she learns from this costly mistake.. i know i did when i got my first and only speeding ticket... it was gonna cost me : $497, tow my car, take my DL and take me to jail.... just so happens i had a very good friend who was on the force that helped me get out on a lesser charge but you best bet i learned a lesson on that one...

[Wayne's 88 GT]

Wow, what does she drive???

Ironically.....she's driving the same 2000 Focus SE I drove for 3 years and 2 years ago I got my first speeding ticket in NC on the way to Bristol..........going 85 in a 60...........

[Notch93]

That really sucks. Could do like my father did to me. He told me, once I got my first ticket, I was off his insurance. Well, I got my first ticket when I was 16, and have had all my cars registered and insured in my name ever since.:yes1:

She might want to try and make some extra money, and hire an attorney for that hefty ticket.

[DSTRBD]

Sorry, to hear all that but 1st it would be you cant drive until all fines are paid and including bills up to date. Maybe a little reinforcement that if you are going to be late at all (call) it might keep her from speeding and you want her to outlive you in this lifetime.

[Blacksheep]

So im kinda confused on how its the BF's fault, and why he is "nothing but trouble". Im not tryin to tell u who to get mad at or anything. but, the title makes it seem like your blaming him..... When i got my first and only ticket, i was in my 85 ranger.... I cant even rember what the fine was, but i know it wasent much. I had to pay in, and my insurance (it went from 18 to 23 a month)lol. But i deff understand your anger when it comes to bein home on time. Ive learned the hard way ounce or twice to, but even when i was late like the one or two times i have ever been, mom really wasent that pissed cuz she always knew what i was doin, and were i was. Always, not matter what.

[SmithRacing]

I'm considering that...........but right now I'm so mad that I don't even want her driving PERIOD for the time being......she has friends that live by us that drive to school and our neighbor drives and goes to Mauldin as well I think. Maybe by tommorow I'll cool down and consider to school and work only.


First you have to figure out why you are mad. If you are mad about paying the ticket and your insurance going up, you are mad for the wrong reason. You should be mad that she could have gotten killed. She needs to understand that you care more about her safety. The next time she drives she shouldn't think "I better slow down I do not want Daddy to have to pay more money' she should think "I better slow down so I do not wreck"

[93fakesnake]

Wayne you give me something to look foward to in several years. Anyway look at the ticket and at the bottom there is a section code. What number is in the section code? That will determine how many points. It should have two numbers like 41, 61 etc. What ever the first number is that is how many points the ticket is. If the fine was $440 then is prob a six point ticket which means your insurance is going to go up. But like everyone said I would be mad too but you will get over that. Just think about when you were a teenage and take that into account. The only thing you can hope for when they grown up is that you have taught them right and wrong and pray the Lord watches them and takes care of them. Good Luck

[Wayne's 88 GT]

Ok I've had time to cool down and think about it.........here are the reasons why I was upset over this....

#1 Speeding and going 62 in a 35. Where she was speeding is on a 2 lane rd just south of Mauldin high. As fas as she was going if someone pulled out in front of her she would not have time to stop......or if someone was crossing the street......I don't think she understand how unsafe that is at night. I was upset because at that rate of speed if there was an accident.....it would have been bad. Kids get hurt or killed at that speed and I would be devestated if she got hurt because she was going that fast. As far as the insurance and fines go......the bill for the ins is in my name but she knows that whatever the result of her ticket does to the insurance she is going to have to pay the increase.....part of her priviledge of driving.

#2 The reason why she was speeding and where the BF plays a part.
She was supposed to be at our house at 9:30 because I knew she had to be to work today at 8am. Andrew her b/f lives in Gilder Creek....which is about 6 or 7 miles from our house and when she left his house to take her friend home......Tiffany lives in Mauldin just past the High school....which is around 8 to 10 miles from my house in the opposite direction. She had to pass by the road that leads to our house to get her home and it takes around 15 mins from our house to her house 1 way. When I asked Katie what time she left to take her friend home she said right around 9pm. She got her ticket in Mauldin at 9:23. That tells me she was speeding the whole time to try to not get into trouble for missing curfew. Until dating Andrew she has always been on time or before time........she made a very poor decision on leaving late, not calling and speeding which endagered her life and her friend as well.......I'm not narrow minded enough to blame the b/f just because she is dating him and its not totally his fault she left late....I just knew her dating a boy was going to lead to her to be so wrapped up in that.....that she is going to make bad decisions or forget things and I don't want to see her make the same bad judgement decisions that I and others have made before. In the end of this.......she is going to have to pay $$ for her insurance and ticket.......and no one got hurt or killed so thats a good thing.......I just hopes she realizes that she needs to make better decisions when it concerns going out and what she is doing when she is out.

[93fakesnake]

Well you know the old saying. You learn from your mistakes. Lord knows I know what that means. Did you ever figure out how many points it was??

[Dave_R]

I agree I would let her drive only to work and school by herself. NO friends. Then when she earns your trust again let her drive to other places but with NO friends. If everyone remembers when you were younger and had friends in the car you tend to show off and drive a little to fast. I think it should be a rule that the first year of driving should be with no passengers unless they are over 21 or 25 in the car with them.Good luck I am a soon to be new first time father and hope I have the sense to make the right choices.

[DSTRBD]

^ I did not want to add all that in but I'd say no riders. Some of you might think it's a bit crazy but I'm for a national permit until 18 with restrictions and license after that. The statistics in the (killed) in accidents catagory are very high and we could have kids get some experience behind the wheel for a couple of years.

[Wayne's 88 GT]

KB.......it's a 6 point ticket......27 mph over posted limit.

Also friday night when I picked up Tyler and his friend Cashual from b-ball practice Tyler told me he wouldn't mind his first car being a Mustang.......he prefers the New Edge design.......and he just turned 14 so its not too much longer till he's on the road as well.
Not sure on a Stang at the moment for 3 reasons.........insurance......will he fit in one ( he's 6ft 6 200 lbs and eats us out of house and home) and now do I really want to put him in a sports car when my daughter is flying in a compact??
Then I've got 3 more after him.....Paige is 10 Emily 4 and Landon is almost 3 so I'll have a little break I guess.....the joys of being a parent!!

[clonegt93]

make her go to alive at 25.. that would be enough punishment plus you get out of your ticket =]